It’s hard to wrap your head around what’s going on in another person’s mind, let alone if that person has mental illness. But this month, Mental Health Awareness Month—and every day at Big Sister League of San Diego—we try. To shed light on these efforts, we’re sharing one resident’s journey in four candid perspectives, now from a staff member.
“The beauty of this place to me is that it’s independent living. My day is my day. I have the dignity and respect to live my life in the community as an equal,” says Deb, four years after securing a bed at Big Sister League of San Diego. “And behind the scenes, I have support.”
As a housing director at BSL, she interacts with residents on a daily basis, from being all ears to someone in need of a good vent to lending pep talks and also doing well checks, essentially holding residents accountable for counting and taking their medications and also ensuring they’re meeting a requirement to be out of the house 20 hours per week.
For Deb, those 20 hours come in the form of appointments with her care team, exercise, and time with family. Oh, and like us all, a little trip the beach every now and then.
“And I don’t have to ask permission to go to the beach,” she explains. That’s because BSL is bent on independency. And Deb describes the “transitional” living environment flawlessly.
“It doesn’t mean I’m transitioning from one house to another. It means you are living in a certain environment within these parameters of staff. I have someone here from 9 a.m. to 9 p.m. to put out the little fires between 15 women living under one roof.”
For Haynes, distinguishing the flames comes naturally. She was a special needs preschool teacher for 12 years before joining our organization about two years ago. (Like a family does, sometimes the BSL residents tease that they’re her preschoolers now.)